To wed or not to wed, that is the real question. People often decide to get married for the wrong reasons, but if so then what are the right reasons?
I worked with a lot of brides over the years and have often seen how relationships crumble even before they have said their I do's. But why does this happen? Why do you spend years dating that special someone and then when it is finally time for the I do, you can't seem to find the right words in your vocabulary?
There are many factors to take in consideration when deciding to get married. Here are the top 10 excuses you hear very often in no particular order:
1. We do not have the money
2. Who do we invite and who do we leave out
3. We can't seem to decide on a date
4. The dream venue is not available
5. We are working on a 5 year plan
6. We are to young
7. We do not want to ruin what we have
8. I am still looking for the right moment
9. I can’t afford the ring she wants
10. There is still so much that I want to do
So let put things in a woman’s perspective view (because usually the men are the ones waiting for reasons mentioned above).
You are never going to have enough money because prices keep changing and so does the needs of people. You do not need money to get married, because if you really want to get married you won't care about the glitz and the glam of the wedding world. Yes! sure the glitz and glam would be nice if you can afford it, but if all you desire is to be united in union before God and enjoy the life that you can build together or to start a family then money is not the factor to consider here.
Weddings are not about who was invited or not, the question is will the people that really, honestly matter to you be a part of your special day? It is not about where you get married, it is about who you are getting married to and about starting a life together regardless of where you are tying the knot.
Then we all know that rules are meant to be broken, so why stick to the plan when you can make new ones with your life partner? And why not make what you have official, it usually adds value to the relationship from both sides. And all the things you want to still experience, you will build new experiences which will literally be double the fun!
When it comes to the right moment and the ring... Believe me if you really want to get married to the person you love the ring or moment will make no difference to her. Women don't need big diamonds and expensive dates, we just require love and devotion. I know we says that we want the big diamond and the fairytale story to tell, but believe me when that question is asked we through all those childhood dreams out the window!
So when deciding on whether you should ask her or not remember these few tips:
1. The moments is always perfect
2. Even a lucky packet ring will do
3. We just want to spend our life’s with you
4. You are the right guy for us
5. We love you no matter what you decide to do
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